3 Actionable Ways To Break Free From The Comparison Trap

Remember timelines are bullshit.

Try a mindset shift

When you’re noticing you’re comparing yourself to someone else yet again, practice a mindset shift. For example, perhaps a good friend just starting dating someone wonderful the same week you got ghosted for the 178th time. Unless you’re Michelle Obama, you maybe start feeling a little jealous, asking yourself questions like, “Why do things never work out for me like that?” Or, “How did they find them so easily?”

  • How did they find them so easily? → “I’m so happy they finally found someone who is as awesome as they are!”

Ask yourself if what they have is what you actually want.

Do you actually want to be married with kids by 28? Do you actually want to be at the top of the corporate ladder by 32? Do you actually want to work out every morning at 4 AM? (Fucking Hell, no.) Do you actually want to travel every single month?

Remember timelines are bullshit.

That’s right. Timelines are complete and utter bullshit.

Writer covering mental health, wellness, personal growth and everything in between. Golden retriever in a past life. She/her.

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