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If You Want To Find Your People, Know Yourself Outside Of Others First
Authenticity. A buzzword to be sure, but an important concept nevertheless. By definition, to be “authentic” is to be genuine. True to self. Real. To be authentic is to act most like yourself, whoever that might be. It is important to cherish and build upon the nuances that make up who you are because it’s when you are deeply yourself that you are the most powerful, influential, and present.
Most importantly, though, when you are truly connected with who it is you actually are, you find your people. But in order to do that, you need to figure out who you are outside of others first. It is absolutely fundamental to attracting the right relationships, romantic and otherwise.
Now, this is not to say you have to go live in the woods for a year and completely isolate yourself from humanity. However, you do have to spend quite a bit of quality time on your own and get to know yourself better.
The reason for this is that you can’t really find those who are meant for you if you’re false advertising. Because as soon as you take off the mask, as soon as you pipe up about what it is you really need, they’re gonna bolt. After all, when they’re used to giving you the bare minimum, a change in frequency will be startling. It’s not what they signed up for.
